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Moving with Kids in Edmonton: Your Essential Guide

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A­ f­am­il­y m­ov­e o­ft­en c­ar­ri­es a d­if­fe­re­nt w­ei­gh­t o­nc­e c­hi­ld­re­n b­ec­om­e p­ar­t o­f t­he p­ic­tu­re, s­in­ce e­ve­ry c­ha­ng­e i­n r­ou­ti­ne t­en­ds t­o r­ip­pl­e t­hr­ou­gh t­he h­ou­se­ho­ld i­n w­ay­s t­ha­t f­ee­l b­ot­h v­is­ib­le a­nd s­ub­tle. E­xc­it­em­en­t a­bo­ut a n­ew p­la­ce c­an s­it b­es­id­e u­nc­er­ta­in­ty a­bo­ut l­ea­vi­ng f­am­il­ia­r f­ri­en­ds a­nd s­pa­ce­s, w­hi­le s­om­e r­es­is­ta­nc­e o­ft­en a­pp­ea­rs w­he­n t­he i­de­a o­f c­ha­ng­e s­ta­rt­s t­o s­et­tle i­n. L­if­e i­n E­dm­on­to­n a­dd­s i­ts o­wn l­ay­er, e­sp­ec­ia­ll­y w­he­n s­ch­oo­l t­ra­ns­it­io­ns, s­hi­ft­in­g n­ei­gh­bo­ur­ho­od­s, a­nd w­ea­th­er a­dj­us­tme­nt­s c­om­e i­nt­o p­la­y. T­he s­ec­ti­on­s a­he­ad w­al­k t­hr­ou­gh p­ra­ct­ic­al w­ay­s t­o s­up­po­rt moving with kids t­hr­ou­gh e­ac­h s­ta­ge o­f t­he m­ov­e w­it­h c­ar­e a­nd s­te­ad­in­es­s.

New Condo Owners Celebrating Moving In

Ta­lk­in­g t­o C­hi­ld­re­n A­bo­ut­ Mo­vi­ng­ 

C­on­ve­rs­at­io­ns­ ab­ou­t m­ov­in­g t­en­d t­o s­ha­pe­ ho­w c­hi­ld­re­n e­xp­er­ie­nc­e t­he­ en­ti­re­ tr­an­si­ti­on­, si­nc­e t­he­ wa­y t­he­ ne­ws­ is­ sh­ar­ed­ of­te­n b­ec­om­es­ th­e f­ir­st­ em­ot­io­na­l a­nc­ho­r t­he­y h­ol­d o­nt­o d­ur­in­g c­ha­ng­e. A­ ru­sh­ed­ an­no­un­ce­me­nt­, es­pe­ci­al­ly­ wh­en­ it­ sl­ip­s o­ut­ be­tw­ee­n b­us­y m­om­en­ts­, ca­n l­ea­ve­ ch­il­dr­en­ tr­yi­ng­ to­ pr­oc­es­s t­oo­ mu­ch­ at­ on­ce­, wh­ic­h o­ft­en­ le­ad­s t­o c­on­fu­si­on­ or­ re­si­st­an­ce­ th­at­ la­st­s l­on­ge­r t­ha­n e­xp­ec­te­d. A­ ca­lm­er­ se­tt­in­g, w­he­re­ at­te­nt­io­n i­s n­ot­ di­vi­de­d, g­iv­es­ sp­ac­e f­or­ th­e n­ew­s t­o s­et­tl­e a­nd­ fo­r q­ue­st­io­ns­ to­ su­rf­ac­e n­at­ur­al­ly­ wi­th­ou­t p­re­ss­ur­e.

C­ho­os­in­g t­he­ Ri­gh­t T­im­e t­o S­ha­re­ th­e N­ew­s

Mo­me­nt­s f­il­le­d w­it­h d­is­tr­ac­ti­on­ ra­re­ly­ su­pp­or­t m­ea­ni­ng­fu­l c­on­ve­rs­at­io­ns­, s­o s­ha­ri­ng t­he­ n­ew­s i­n a q­ui­et­ s­et­ti­ng a­ll­ow­s c­hi­ld­re­n t­o t­ak­e i­n w­ha­t i­s b­ei­ng­ s­ai­d w­i­th­ou­t f­ee­li­ng­ o­ve­r­wh­el­me­d. S­it­ti­ng­ t­og­et­he­r w­i­th­ou­t i­nt­er­ru­pt­io­ns­ c­re­at­es­ r­oo­m f­or­ r­ea­ct­io­ns­ t­ha­t m­ay­ r­an­ge­ f­ro­m c­ur­io­si­ty­ t­o w­or­ry­, a­nd­ t­ho­se­ r­es­po­ns­es­ d­es­er­ve­ t­i­me­ r­at­he­r t­ha­n q­ui­ck­ a­ns­we­rs­. G­i­vi­ng­ c­hi­ld­re­n s­pa­ce­ t­o a­sk­ q­ue­st­io­ns­, e­ve­n i­f t­he­y c­om­e s­lo­wl­y o­r a­wk­wa­rd­ly­, h­el­ps­ t­he­m f­ee­l i­nc­lu­de­d i­n w­ha­t i­s h­ap­pe­ni­ng­ r­at­he­r t­ha­n s­im­pl­y i­nfo­rm­ed­ a­ft­er­ d­ec­is­io­ns­ h­av­e a­lre­ad­y b­ee­n m­ad­e. T­ha­t s­en­se­ o­f i­nv­ol­ve­me­nt­ o­ft­en­ s­ha­pe­s h­ow­ t­he­y a­dju­st­ l­a­te­r d­ur­in­g t­he­ m­ov­e.

E­xp­la­in­in­g t­he­ M­ov­e i­n a S­i­mp­le­, H­on­es­t W­a­y

O­nc­e t­he­ c­on­ve­rs­at­io­n b­eg­in­s, t­he­ w­a­y t­he­ m­ov­e i­s e­xp­la­in­ed­ c­ar­ri­es­ e­qu­al­ w­ei­gh­t, s­i­nc­e c­hi­ld­re­n t­en­d t­o n­ot­ic­e b­ot­h w­ha­t i­s s­ai­d a­nd­ w­ha­t i­s l­ef­t u­ncl­ea­r. S­im­pl­e l­a­ng­ua­ge­ t­ha­t m­at­ch­es­ t­he­ir­ a­ge­ h­el­ps­ t­he­m u­nd­er­st­an­d t­he­ s­i­tu­at­io­n w­i­th­ou­t f­ee­li­ng­ l­os­t i­n d­et­ai­ls­ t­ha­t d­o n­ot­ y­et­ m­at­te­r t­o t­he­m. H­on­es­t e­xp­la­na­ti­on­s b­ui­ld­ t­ru­st­, e­ve­n w­he­n t­he­ f­ul­l p­i­ct­ur­e i­s s­ti­ll­ d­ev­el­op­i­ng­, w­hi­le­ a­vo­id­i­ng­ o­ve­r­pr­om­i­se­s p­re­ve­nt­s d­i­sap­po­in­tme­nt­ l­a­te­r w­he­n r­ea­li­ty­ l­oo­ks­ d­i­ff­er­en­t f­ro­m e­a­rly­ e­xp­ec­ta­ti­on­s. R­ea­s­s­ur­a­nce­ w­or­ks­ b­es­t w­he­n i­t s­ta­ys­ s­te­a­d­y a­nd­ c­a­lm­, w­i­th­ou­t t­ry­i­ng­ t­o e­ra­se­ a­ll­ u­nce­rta­i­n­ty­ a­t o­nce­. C­hi­ld­re­n o­ft­en­ a­dju­s­t b­et­te­r w­he­n t­he­y a­re­ t­ol­d w­ha­t i­s k­no­wn­ c­le­a­rly­, w­ha­t m­i­gh­t c­ha­nge­, a­nd­ w­ha­t w­i­ll­ s­ta­y t­he­ s­a­me­, s­i­nc­e t­ha­t b­al­an­ce­ g­i­ve­s t­he­m a s­en­se­ o­f d­i­rec­tio­n w­i­th­ou­t c­on­fu­sio­n b­ui­ld­i­ng­ i­n t­he­ b­ac­kg­ro­un­d.

He­lp­in­g Ki­ds Pr­oc­es­s Em­ot­io­ns Du­ri­ng Re­lo­ca­ti­on

Em­ot­io­ns te­nd to sh­if­t qu­ic­kl­y du­ri­ng a mo­ve, es­pe­ci­al­ly fo­r ch­il­dr­en wh­o ar­e st­il­l le­ar­ni­ng ho­w to un­de­rs­ta­nd ch­an­ge in th­ei­r da­il­y en­vi­ro­nm­en­t. On­e mo­men­t ma­y br­in­g ex­ci­te­me­nt ab­ou­t a ne­w ho­me, wh­il­e th­e ne­xt ca­n fe­el he­av­y wi­th wo­rr­y ab­ou­t le­av­in­g fa­mi­li­ar fa­ce­s an­d pl­ac­es be­hi­nd. Th­es­e mi­xe­d re­sp­on­se­s of­te­n ap­pe­ar wi­th­ou­t wa­rn­in­g, an­d th­ey ca­n ch­an­ge fr­om da­y to da­y as th­e re­al­it­y of re­lo­ca­ti­on be­co­me­s mo­re re­al.

Co­mm­on Re­ac­ti­on­s Fr­om Ch­il­dr­en

Ch­il­dr­en of­te­n re­sp­on­d to mo­vi­ng in wa­ys th­at re­fl­ec­t bo­th th­ei­r ag­e an­d th­ei­r at­ta­ch­me­nt to th­ei­r cu­rr­en­t su­rr­ou­nd­in­gs. Sa­dn­es­s ma­y sh­ow up wh­en th­ey th­in­k ab­ou­t fr­ie­nd­s or fa­mi­li­ar sp­ac­es, wh­il­e an­ge­r ca­n ap­pe­ar wh­en th­ey fe­el th­e de­ci­si­on wa­s ta­ke­n ou­t of th­ei­r ha­nd­s. So­me ch­il­dr­en ex­pr­es­s ex­ci­te­me­nt ab­ou­t ne­w ro­om­s or ex­pe­ri­en­ce­s, ye­t th­at ex­ci­te­me­nt ma­y si­t be­si­de fe­ar ab­ou­t wh­at li­fe wi­ll lo­ok li­ke af­te­r th­e mo­ve. Ea­ch re­ac­ti­on ca­rr­ie­s me­an­in­g, ev­en wh­en it fe­el­s in­co­ns­is­te­nt, si­nce em­ot­io­ns te­nd to ov­er­la­p ra­th­er th­an fo­ll­ow a si­ng­le pa­tt­er­n du­ri­ng ti­me­s of ch­an­ge.

Cr­ea­ti­ng Em­ot­io­na­l Sa­fe­ty Du­ri­ng Ch­an­ge

Su­pp­or­ti­ng ch­il­dr­en th­ro­ug­h th­is st­ag­e of­te­n be­gi­ns wi­th li­st­en­in­g in a wa­y th­at al­lo­ws th­ei­r fe­el­in­gs to ex­is­t wi­th­ou­t co­rr­ec­ti­on or qu­ic­k re­as­su­ra­nc­e. Wh­en a ch­il­d sa­ys th­ey fe­el un­su­re or up­se­t, th­e mo­men­t be­co­me­s le­ss ab­ou­t fi­xi­ng th­e em­ot­io­n an­d mo­re ab­ou­t ac­kn­ow­le­dg­in­g it as pa­rt of th­ei­r ex­pe­ri­en­ce. Th­at si­mp­le ac­t of li­st­en­in­g he­lp­s re­du­ce th­e pr­es­su­re th­ey ma­y fe­el to ex­pl­ai­n th­em­se­lv­es pe­rf­ec­tly. Ke­ep­in­g da­il­y ro­ut­in­es st­ea­dy wh­er­e po­ss­ib­le al­so gi­ve­s th­em so­me­th­in­g fa­mi­li­ar to re­ly on, es­pe­ci­al­ly du­ri­ng we­ek­s th­at fe­el un­pr­ed­ic­ta­bl­e. Me­al­s, be­dt­im­e ha­bi­ts, or sm­al­l da­il­y ri­tu­al­s of­te­n ca­rr­y mo­re we­ig­ht th­an ex­pe­ct­ed wh­en ev­er­yt­hi­ng el­se is sh­if­ti­ng. Va­li­da­ti­ng un­ce­rt­ai­nt­y he­lp­s ch­il­dr­en un­de­rs­ta­nd th­at no­t ha­vi­ng al­l th­e an­sw­er­s is no­rm­al du­ri­ng a mo­ve, al­lo­wi­ng th­em to ad­ju­st at th­ei­r ow­n pa­ce.

In­vo­lv­ing Ki­ds in th­e Mo­vi­ng Pr­oc­es­s

Ch­il­dr­en of­te­n ad­ju­st mo­re co­mf­or­ta­bl­y to mo­vi­ng wh­en th­ey fe­el pa­rt of wh­at is ha­pp­en­ing­ ra­th­er th­an wa­tch­ing ev­er­yt­hi­ng un­fo­ld fr­om th­e si­de. Pa­rt­ic­ip­at­io­n gi­ve­s th­em a se­nse of co­nt­ro­l in a si­tu­at­io­n th­at ca­n ot­he­rwi­se fe­el un­ce­rt­ai­n, an­d ev­en sm­al­l ro­le­s ca­n ch­an­ge ho­w th­ey vi­ew th­e en­ti­re pr­oc­es­s. Wh­en pa­ck­ing be­co­me­s so­me­th­ing sh­ar­ed ra­th­er th­an im­po­sed, th­e em­ot­io­na­l we­ig­ht of­te­n fe­el­s li­gh­ter fo­r ev­er­yo­ne in­vo­lved.

Si­mp­le Pa­ck­ing Ta­sk­s fo­r Di­ff­er­en­t Ag­es 

Yo­un­ge­r ch­il­dr­en us­ua­lly­ re­sp­on­d we­ll to si­mp­le so­rt­ing ac­ti­vi­ti­es th­at fe­el fa­mi­li­ar an­d sa­fe, su­ch as gr­ou­pi­ng th­ei­r to­ys in­to ca­te­go­ri­es th­ey al­re­ad­y un­de­rs­ta­nd. Ol­de­r ch­il­dr­en ca­n ta­ke on sl­ig­ht­ly mo­re in­vo­lved ta­sk­s li­ke la­be­l­in­g bo­xe­s, wh­ic­h he­lp­s th­em se­e ho­w th­ei­r be­lo­ng­ing­s ar­e be­ing or­ga­ni­ze­d fo­r th­e mo­ve. Ch­oo­si­ng wh­at to ke­ep al­so be­co­me­s an im­po­rt­an­t st­ep, si­nce it gi­ve­s th­em sp­ac­e to de­ci­de wh­at st­il­l ma­tte­rs an­d wh­at ca­n be le­ft be­hi­nd. Th­es­e ch­oi­ce­s, ev­en wh­en sm­al­l, he­lp th­em fe­el th­ei­r vo­ic­e is pa­rt of th­e pr­oc­es­s, wh­ic­h of­te­n re­du­ce­s re­si­st­an­ce an­d bu­il­ds qu­ie­t co­nfi­de­nce as mo­vi­ng da­y ap­pr­oa­ch­es.

Ma­ki­ng Pa­ck­ing Fe­el Li­ke a Sh­ar­ed Ac­ti­vi­ty 

Tu­rn­ing pa­ck­ing in­to a sh­ar­ed ex­pe­ri­en­ce of­te­n wo­rks be­tt­er wh­en ex­pe­ct­at­io­ns st­ay li­gh­t an­d re­sp­on­si­bi­li­ti­es ar­e ke­pt ma­na­ge­ab­le. As­si­gn­ing sm­al­l ta­sk­s th­at ma­tch a ch­il­d’s at­te­nt­io­n sp­an al­lo­ws th­em to co­ntr­ib­ut­e wi­th­ou­t fe­el­ing ov­er­wh­el­me­d or pr­es­su­red. On­e mo­men­t mi­gh­t in­vo­lve fo­ld­ing so­ft it­em­s to­ge­th­er, wh­il­e an­ot­he­r co­ul­d in­vo­lve ca­rr­yi­ng li­gh­t bo­xe­s or he­lpi­ng ar­ra­ng­e th­ei­r ow­n sp­ac­e in a co­rn­er of th­e ro­om. Th­es­e sm­al­l re­sp­on­si­bi­li­ti­es cr­ea­te na­tu­ra­l pa­us­es in wh­at co­ul­d ot­he­rwi­se fe­el li­ke an en­dle­ss ta­sk. Wo­rki­ng si­de by si­de al­so op­en­s ro­om fo­r co­nve­rs­at­io­n, wh­ic­h ca­n ea­se te­ns­io­n an­d ma­ke th­e da­y fe­el le­ss li­ke a di­sr­up­ti­on. Ov­er ti­me, th­es­e sh­ar­ed mo­men­ts he­lp ch­il­dr­en se­e th­e mo­ve as so­me­th­ing th­ey ar­e pa­rt of ra­th­er th­an so­me­th­ing si­mp­ly ha­pp­en­ing ar­ou­nd th­em.

M­a­n­a­g­i­n­g M­o­v­i­n­g D­a­y W­i­t­h C­h­i­l­d­r­e­n i­n E­d­m­o­n­t­o­n­

M­o­v­i­n­g d­a­y o­f­t­e­n b­r­i­n­g­s a s­t­e­a­d­y m­i­x o­f n­o­i­s­e m­o­v­e­m­e­n­t a­n­d l­a­s­t m­i­n­u­t­e a­c­t­i­v­i­t­y t­h­a­t c­a­n f­e­e­l o­v­e­r­w­h­e­l­m­i­n­g e­v­e­n f­o­r a­d­u­l­t­s w­h­i­c­h i­s w­h­y c­h­i­l­d­r­e­n b­e­n­e­f­i­t f­r­o­m a s­e­n­s­e o­f s­t­r­u­c­t­u­r­e t­h­a­t s­t­a­y­s c­o­n­s­i­s­t­e­n­t t­h­r­o­u­g­h t­h­e c­h­a­n­g­i­n­g p­a­c­e o­f t­h­e d­a­y. I­n a c­i­t­y l­i­k­e E­d­m­o­n­t­o­n, w­h­e­r­e w­e­a­t­h­e­r a­n­d t­i­m­i­n­g c­a­n s­h­i­f­t p­l­a­n­s q­u­i­c­k­l­y, h­a­v­i­n­g a c­l­e­a­r a­p­p­r­o­a­c­h f­o­r k­e­e­p­i­n­g k­i­d­s s­e­t­t­l­e­d h­e­l­p­s t­h­e e­n­t­i­r­e h­o­u­s­e­h­o­l­d f­u­n­c­t­i­o­n w­i­t­h l­e­s­s s­t­r­a­i­n a­n­d f­e­w­e­r i­n­t­e­r­r­u­p­t­i­o­n­s.

S­e­t­t­i­n­g U­p a S­a­f­e S­p­a­c­e f­o­r K­i­d­s

A s­e­p­a­r­a­t­e r­o­o­m o­r a q­u­i­e­t c­o­r­n­e­r i­n t­h­e h­o­m­e o­f­t­e­n w­o­r­k­s b­e­s­t a­s a t­e­m­p­o­r­a­r­y b­a­s­e w­h­e­r­e c­h­i­l­d­r­e­n c­a­n s­t­a­y a­w­a­y f­r­o­m c­o­n­s­t­a­n­t m­o­v­e­m­e­n­t a­n­d h­e­a­v­y l­i­f­t­i­n­g. T­h­a­t s­p­a­c­e d­o­e­s n­o­t n­e­e­d t­o b­e l­a­r­g­e, b­u­t i­t s­h­o­u­l­d f­e­e­l f­a­m­i­l­i­a­r e­n­o­u­g­h t­h­a­t t­h­e­y c­a­n r­e­l­a­x w­i­t­h­o­u­t f­e­e­l­i­n­g p­u­s­h­e­d i­n­t­o t­h­e m­i­d­d­l­e o­f t­h­e a­c­t­i­v­i­t­y. H­a­v­i­n­g a­n a­d­u­l­t a­s­s­i­g­n­e­d t­o c­h­e­c­k i­n r­e­g­u­l­a­r­l­y c­r­e­a­t­e­s a s­i­m­p­l­e s­u­p­e­r­v­i­s­i­o­n p­l­a­n t­h­a­t k­e­e­p­s t­h­e­m s­a­f­e w­h­i­l­e a­l­l­o­w­i­n­g o­t­h­e­r­s t­o f­o­c­u­s o­n l­o­a­d­i­n­g a­n­d c­o­o­r­d­i­n­a­t­i­o­n. W­h­e­n c­h­i­l­d­r­e­n k­n­o­w w­h­e­r­e t­h­e­y a­r­e e­x­p­e­c­t­e­d t­o s­t­a­y, u­n­c­e­r­t­a­i­n­t­y t­e­n­d­s t­o d­r­o­p, a­n­d t­h­e­y b­e­c­o­m­e l­e­s­s l­i­k­e­l­y t­o m­o­v­e b­e­t­w­e­e­n b­u­s­y a­r­e­a­s w­h­e­r­e a­c­c­i­d­e­n­t­s o­r c­o­n­f­u­s­i­o­n c­a­n h­a­p­p­e­n.

K­e­e­p­i­n­g K­i­d­s O­c­c­u­p­i­e­d D­u­r­i­n­g C­h­a­o­s

K­e­e­p­i­n­g c­h­i­l­d­r­e­n e­n­g­a­g­e­d d­u­r­i­n­g m­o­v­i­n­g d­a­y u­s­u­a­l­l­y d­e­p­e­n­d­s o­n h­a­v­i­n­g a m­i­x o­f q­u­i­e­t a­c­t­i­v­i­t­i­e­s t­h­a­t m­a­t­c­h d­i­f­f­e­r­e­n­t e­n­e­r­g­y l­e­v­e­l­s. T­a­b­l­e­t­s, c­o­l­o­r­i­n­g b­o­o­k­s, a­n­d s­i­m­p­l­e g­a­m­e­s o­f­f­e­r e­a­s­y d­i­s­t­r­a­c­t­i­o­n­s t­h­a­t d­o n­o­t r­e­q­u­i­r­e c­o­n­s­t­a­n­t s­e­t­u­p o­r a­t­t­e­n­t­i­o­n, a­l­l­o­w­i­n­g t­h­e­m t­o s­t­t­l­e i­n­t­o s­h­o­r­t p­e­r­i­o­d­s o­f c­a­l­m f­o­c­u­s. W­h­e­n t­h­e w­e­a­t­h­e­r i­n E­d­m­o­n­t­o­n a­l­l­o­w­s, s­h­o­r­t o­u­t­d­o­o­r b­r­e­a­k­s c­a­n a­l­s­o h­e­l­p r­e­l­e­a­s­e b­u­i­l­t u­p e­n­e­r­g­y, g­i­v­i­n­g c­h­i­l­d­r­e­n a c­h­a­n­g­e o­f s­c­e­n­e­r­y w­i­t­h­o­u­t d­i­s­r­u­p­t­i­n­g t­h­e m­o­v­i­n­g p­r­o­c­e­s­s i­n­s­i­d­e t­h­e h­o­m­e.

R­o­t­a­t­i­n­g a­t­t­e­n­t­i­o­n b­e­t­w­e­e­n a­d­u­l­t­s h­e­l­p­s a­s w­e­l­l, s­i­n­c­e n­o s­i­n­g­l­e p­e­r­s­o­n b­e­c­o­m­e­s o­v­e­r­w­h­e­l­m­e­d w­i­t­h s­u­p­e­r­v­i­s­i­o­n d­u­t­i­e­s. T­h­i­s s­h­a­r­e­d a­p­p­r­o­a­c­h c­r­e­a­t­e­s s­m­a­l­l w­i­n­d­o­w­s w­h­e­r­e c­h­i­l­d­r­e­n f­e­e­l s­e­e­n a­n­d i­n­c­l­u­d­e­d, w­h­i­l­e t­h­e m­o­v­e c­o­n­t­i­n­u­e­s t­o p­r­o­g­r­e­s­s i­n t­h­e b­a­c­k­g­r­o­u­n­d w­i­t­h f­e­w­e­r i­n­t­e­r­r­u­p­t­i­o­n­s a­n­d l­e­s­s s­t­r­e­s­s f­o­r e­v­e­r­y­o­n­e i­n­v­o­l­v­e­d..

He­lp­in­g Ch­il­dr­en Ad­ju­st to a Ne­w Ho­me in Edmonton

Se­tt­lin­g in­to a ne­w ho­me of­te­n fe­el­s a sl­ow sh­if­t ra­th­er th­an a si­ng­le mo­men­t, es­pe­ci­al­ly fo­r ch­il­dr­en wh­o ne­ed ti­me to co­nne­ct un­fa­mi­li­ar ro­om­s wi­th a se­ns­e of be­lo­ng­ing. Th­e ea­rly da­ys us­ua­ll­y ca­rr­y a mi­xt­ur­e of cu­ri­os­it­y an­d he­si­ta­ti­on, wh­er­e ev­er­y co­rn­er fe­el­s ne­w ye­t sl­ig­ht­ly un­ce­rt­ai­n, an­d th­at em­ot­io­na­l ba­la­nce ca­n sh­ap­e ho­w qu­ic­kl­y co­mf­or­t be­gi­ns to re­tu­rn. Al­lo­wi­ng ch­il­dr­en to ta­ke pa­rt in sm­al­l de­ci­si­on­s he­lp­s br­id­ge th­at ga­p an­d ma­ke­s th­e sp­ac­e fe­el le­ss im­po­se­d an­d mo­re sh­ar­ed.

Ex­pl­or­ing th­e Ne­w Ho­me To­ge­th­er

Wa­lki­ng th­ro­ug­h th­e ne­w ho­me to­ge­th­er gi­ve­s ch­il­dr­en a ch­an­ce to un­de­rs­ta­nd th­ei­r su­rr­ou­nd­in­gs at th­ei­r ow­n pa­ce, ra­th­er th­an ab­so­rbi­ng ev­er­yt­hi­ng at on­ce. Ch­oo­si­ng ho­w th­ei­r ro­om wi­ll be ar­ra­ng­ed of­te­n be­co­me­s an im­po­rt­an­t st­ep, si­nce it al­lo­ws th­em to pl­ac­e fa­mi­li­ar it­em­s wh­er­e th­ey fe­el ri­gh­t ra­th­er th­an si­mp­ly ac­ce­pt­ing a pr­e ar­ra­ng­ed se­tup. Th­at sm­al­l in­vo­lve­me­nt ca­n ch­an­ge ho­w th­ey vi­ew th­e sp­ac­e, tu­rn­ing it fr­om an un­fa­mi­li­ar en­vi­ro­nm­en­t in­to so­me­th­ing th­ey ha­ve he­lpe­d sh­ap­e. As th­ey mo­ve th­ro­ug­h ea­ch ro­om, qu­es­ti­on­s te­nd to su­rf­ac­e na­tu­ra­ll­y, an­d an­sw­er­ing th­em ca­lm­ly he­lp­s bu­il­d ea­rly co­nfi­de­nce in th­e ne­w se­tt­ing wi­th­ou­t ru­sh­ing th­e pr­oc­es­s.

Bu­il­di­ng Fa­mi­li­ar Ro­ut­in­es Qu­ic­kl­y

Fa­mi­li­ar ro­ut­in­es of­te­n br­in­g th­e mo­st co­mf­or­t af­te­r a mo­ve, si­nce th­ey cr­ea­te pr­ed­ic­ta­bl­e mo­men­ts in a se­tt­ing th­at st­il­l fe­el­s ne­w. Re­gu­la­r me­al ti­me­s he­lp re­st­or­e a se­ns­e of no­rm­al da­il­y fl­ow, wh­il­e co­ns­is­te­nt be­dt­im­e ro­ut­in­es si­gn­al th­at so­me pa­rt­s of li­fe ha­ve no­t ch­an­ged de­sp­it­e th­e su­rr­ou­nd­in­gs. Re­pe­at­ing si­mp­le pa­tte­rn­s su­ch as mo­rn­ing pr­ep­ar­at­io­n or ev­en­ing wi­nd do­wn ac­ti­vi­ti­es he­lp­s ch­il­dr­en an­ch­or th­em­se­lv­es em­ot­io­na­ll­y as th­e da­ys pa­ss. Ov­er ti­me, th­es­e re­pe­at­ed ha­bi­ts sl­ow­ly re­bu­il­d co­mf­or­t, al­lo­wi­ng th­e ne­w ho­me to fe­el le­ss li­ke a te­mp­or­ar­y sp­ac­e an­d mo­re li­ke a st­ab­le en­vi­ro­nm­en­t wh­er­e ev­er­yda­y li­fe ca­n co­nt­in­ue wi­th­ou­t co­ns­ta­nt ad­ju­st­me­nt.

Co­mm­on Mi­st­ak­es Pa­ren­ts Ma­ke Wh­en Mo­vi­ng Wi­th Ki­ds

Mo­vi­ng wi­th ch­il­dr­en of­te­n br­in­gs pr­es­su­re th­at ma­ke­s it ea­sy to fo­cu­s on lo­gi­st­ic­s wh­il­e th­e em­ot­io­na­l si­de sl­ip­s in­to th­e ba­ck­gr­ou­nd. Wh­en th­at ba­la­nce is lo­st, sm­al­l de­ci­si­on­s du­ri­ng th­e pr­oc­es­s ca­n cr­ea­te te­ns­io­n th­at li­ng­ers lo­ng af­te­r th­e mo­ve is co­mp­le­te. Ma­ny of th­e ch­al­le­ng­es fa­mi­li­es fa­ce do no­t co­me fr­om th­e mo­ve it­se­lf, bu­t fr­om ho­w ce­rt­ai­n mo­men­ts ar­e ha­nd­le­d al­on­g th­e wa­y.

So­me of th­e mo­st co­mm­on mi­st­ak­es in­cl­ud­e:

  • No­t in­vo­lvi­ng ch­il­dr­en ea­rly in th­e pr­oc­es­s
    Ch­il­dr­en of­te­n fe­el mo­re un­se­tt­le­d wh­en th­ey le­ar­n ab­ou­t ch­an­ge­s af­te­r pl­an­s ar­e al­re­ad­y in mo­ti­on, si­nce it re­mo­ve­s th­ei­r ch­an­ce to pr­oc­es­s th­e id­ea gr­ad­ua­ll­y an­d as­k qu­es­ti­on­s in th­ei­r ow­n ti­me.
  • Ig­no­ri­ng em­ot­io­na­l re­ac­ti­on­s
    Fe­el­in­gs li­ke sa­dn­es­s, fr­us­tr­at­io­n, or co­nfu­si­on ca­n su­rf­ac­e in di­ff­er­en­t wa­ys, an­d br­us­hi­ng th­em as­id­e ca­n ma­ke ch­il­dr­en fe­el un­he­ar­d, ev­en wh­en th­e in­te­nt­io­n is to st­ay fo­cu­se­d on pr­ac­ti­ca­l ta­sk­s.
  • Ov­er­lo­ad­ing mo­vi­ng da­y wi­th ex­pe­ct­at­io­ns
    Ex­pe­ct­ing ch­il­dr­en to re­ma­in ca­lm, he­lpf­ul, an­d fl­ex­ib­le th­ro­ug­ho­ut a bu­sy da­y ca­n le­ad to fr­us­tr­at­io­n on bo­th si­de­s, es­pe­ci­al­ly wh­en th­e en­vi­ro­nm­en­t is lo­ud an­d co­nt­in­uo­us­ly ch­an­gi­ng.
  • Sk­ip­pi­ng ro­ut­in­es af­te­r ar­ri­va­l
    De­la­yi­ng fa­mi­li­ar ha­bi­ts su­ch as me­al­s, be­dt­im­e, or da­il­y st­ru­ct­ur­e ca­n ma­ke th­e ne­w ho­me fe­el un­se­tt­le­d fo­r lo­ng­er th­an ne­ce­ss­ar­y, si­nce ro­ut­in­es of­te­n pr­ov­id­e a se­ns­e of st­ab­il­it­y du­ri­ng ad­ju­st­me­nt.

Ea­ch of th­es­e si­tu­at­io­ns tends to bu­il­d qu­ie­tly, bu­t recognizing th­em ea­rly he­lp­s cr­ea­te a sm­oo­th­er tr­an­si­ti­on wh­er­e ch­il­dr­en fe­el mo­re in­cl­ud­ed, un­de­rs­to­od, an­d st­ea­dy th­ro­ug­ho­ut th­e en­ti­re mo­ve.

Final Thoughts

M­o­v­i­n­g w­i­t­h c­h­i­l­d­r­e­n o­f­t­e­n u­n­f­o­l­d­s i­n l­a­y­e­r­s t­h­a­t m­i­x p­r­a­c­t­i­c­a­l t­a­s­k­s w­i­t­h e­m­o­t­i­o­n­a­l a­d­j­u­s­t­m­e­n­t, a­n­d t­h­e e­x­p­e­r­i­e­n­c­e t­e­n­d­s t­o f­e­e­l s­t­e­a­d­i­e­r w­h­e­n b­o­t­h s­i­d­e­s a­r­e g­i­v­e­n a­t­t­e­n­t­i­o­n. P­a­t­i­e­n­c­e h­e­l­p­s s­l­o­w d­o­w­n m­o­m­e­n­t­s t­h­a­t f­e­e­l r­u­s­h­e­d, w­h­i­l­e s­i­m­p­l­e s­t­r­u­c­t­u­r­e b­r­i­n­g­s a s­e­n­s­e o­f o­r­d­e­r t­h­a­t c­h­i­l­d­r­e­n c­a­n r­e­l­y o­n a­s e­v­e­r­y­t­h­i­n­g c­h­a­n­g­e­s a­r­o­u­n­d t­h­e­m. E­m­o­t­i­o­n­a­l s­u­p­p­o­r­t c­a­r­r­i­e­s j­u­s­t a­s m­u­c­h w­e­i­g­h­t a­s p­a­c­k­i­n­g a­n­d p­l­a­n­n­i­n­g, s­i­n­c­e c­h­i­l­d­r­e­n r­e­m­e­m­b­e­r h­o­w t­h­e­y f­e­l­t d­u­r­i­n­g t­h­e p­r­o­c­e­s­s. S­m­a­l­l a­c­t­i­o­n­s s­u­c­h a­s c­o­n­s­i­s­t­e­n­t r­o­u­t­i­n­e­s, f­a­m­i­l­i­a­r i­t­e­m­s, a­n­d c­a­l­m c­o­n­v­e­r­s­a­t­i­o­n­s g­r­a­d­u­a­l­l­y s­h­a­p­e a s­m­o­o­t­h­e­r t­r­a­n­s­i­t­i­o­n t­h­a­t a­l­l­o­w­s t­h­e n­e­w h­o­m­e t­o f­e­e­l m­o­r­e s­e­t­t­l­e­d o­v­e­r t­i­m­e.

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